Behavior Guidance
Aggression — staying safe, staying connected
Physical aggression in dementia is almost always a panic response, not a personality change. Knowing the difference keeps both of you safe.
Updated 2026-02-20
Read the warning signs early
- Pacing, clenched fists, rapid breathing.
- Loud voice, refusing to make eye contact.
- Repeating a phrase like "no, no, no".
- Backing into a corner.
Step-by-step de-escalation
- Step back. Give space. Don't crowd them.
- Lower your voice and slow your speech.
- Drop the task — bath, meds, dinner — it can wait.
- Move to a quieter space. Sit down.
- Reassure with simple phrases: "You're safe. I'm here."
- If you can't de-escalate, leave the room briefly.
Frequently asked questions
- Should I take it personally?
- No. Aggression is a symptom of the disease damaging the brain regions that regulate fear and impulse. Easier said than done — but try.
- When is medication appropriate?
- When safety can't be maintained otherwise. The conversation belongs with a geriatric psychiatrist or the GUIDE care navigator.
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