Paying for Care
VA Aid and Attendance — the most-missed benefit for dementia families
Aid and Attendance is a tax-free monthly benefit on top of the VA pension. For a veteran with a spouse needing care, it can run over $2,800/month — and most families don't know it exists.
Updated 2026-02-15
Who qualifies
- A veteran with 90+ days of active duty, at least one day during a wartime period (WWII, Korea, Vietnam, Gulf War, post-9/11).
- Or a surviving spouse of such a veteran (must not have remarried).
- Needs help with at least two activities of daily living (bathing, dressing, eating, transferring, toileting, continence).
- Below the VA's income + asset thresholds (the bar is generous when medical expenses count against income).
2026 maximum benefit (tax-free, monthly)
- Single veteran: ~$2,358
- Veteran with one dependent: ~$2,795
- Surviving spouse: ~$1,515
- Two veterans married to each other: ~$3,740
How to apply
- Use VA Form 21-2680 (Examination for Housebound Status or Permanent Need for Regular Aid and Attendance) — your doctor completes the medical sections.
- File alongside VA Form 21P-527EZ (pension) or 21P-534EZ (survivors).
- Use a Veterans Service Organization (VFW, American Legion, Disabled American Veterans) — they file for free and know the rules.
- Never pay a "pension consultant" for help — it's illegal under VA rules.
Frequently asked questions
- How long does approval take?
- Currently 4–7 months. Backdated to the application date once approved.
- Does the veteran have to be in a facility?
- No. Aid and Attendance can pay for in-home care, assisted living, or memory care — wherever the documented need is being met.
- Does it affect Medicaid eligibility?
- It can. Aid and Attendance counts as income for Medicaid. Talk to an elder-law attorney before applying if you might need Medicaid later.
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