Hard Conversations
Power of attorney — the conversation with a clock
POA can only be signed while your loved one still has capacity. The moment they lose it, your only path is guardianship — slow, expensive, public.
Updated 2026-02-20
Two different documents
- Financial POA — manages money, pays bills, files taxes, sells assets.
- Healthcare POA / Healthcare proxy — makes medical decisions when they can't.
- Both can be "durable" — meaning they stay active once they sign.
- Most states accept both being held by the same person.
How to have the conversation
- Frame it as planning, not loss: "While you're feeling clear, let's make sure your voice is the one in charge."
- Use an elder-law attorney — about $400–$1,200 for both documents.
- Involve all siblings in the conversation, even if only one is named POA.
- Update advance directive at the same time.
Frequently asked questions
- Can a person with mild dementia still sign POA?
- Often yes — the bar is "understanding the document at the time of signing." An attorney can assess. Mild cognitive impairment usually qualifies.
Every dementia journey is different.
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